I haven’t posted a personal post in a while. There’s a reason for that because my life through no fault of my own is getting pretty ugly. I am an eternal optimist and try for the most part to keep upbeat. As some of you may know, I am going through a divorce after a twelve year marriage. The reason we split, Ex-Hole’s infidelity. Horrible right? Not so much. Through all of this (him and the mistress moving into my house, leaving me and our three kids knocking on my grandmother’s door for shelter, him and her having me arrested, him paying absolutely NO child support) I have realized I’m so much better off. I have learned to love myself, I’m in a great relationship and am just trying to keep my head above water. BUT…
I have been a stay at home mother for the past twelve years. My youngest is three. I have no transportation thanks to Ex-Hole not letting me know he canceled the insurance on the car I was using to transport our three precious children. Resulting in the car being impounded. Guess who’s name the car was in? Not mine. So I wait. I wait for our divorce to be final. I wait for child support. I wait for alimony. I wait for karma to catch up.
I am forced to depend on Ex-Hole (well really her, because he doesn’t like to wake up before 1:00pm) to drive my kids to and from school. I have been very fair with visitation, because I have always believed a child should have both parents no matter what the parents marital status. Even though all three children hate to go, because they are bored out of their mind. Being that he has refused to communicate with me i have been communicating with her. Not something I like, but something until this past week, I have done.
Two weeks ago she drops the kids off, and I notice baby girls hair is noticeably shorter. She has not had a first hair cut and her hair was to the center of her back. I immediately texted him, stating that NO ONE IS TO CUT MY DAUGHTERS HAIR. Next thing I know, my cell phone is shut off. (We still had a joint family account). She quickly emails me telling me to stop harassing my husband. And claims she cut a lollipop out of her hair. Um, ever hear of shampoo? She informed me that since I have no transportation, I will not have a ride to school for the kids if I continue to contact my husband. Ummmm blackmail anyone, insecure much?
After the kids visit this week, I was informed she hits my baby girl. I cannot discuss too much of this due to legal matters. Let’s just say the ish hit the fan. Here I am sending my baby girl each week in tears, thinking I’m putting my feelings aside and doing what’s right and this happens! I feel that I have failed my children. First by staying in an unhealthy marriage for so long. And now by letting them be in the presence of a clearly unstable whore and a father who has NO backbone whatsoever. So I emailed the both of them, letting them know how outraged I am. She responds denying the accusations which I know are true. I told her I will no longer be communicating with her regarding me and my husbands children. She tells me he has gotten a restraining order against me for harassment. I have yet to be served, because there is no restraining order, just a coward standing behind his mistress.
So my question to you, my readers, have any of you had to deal with such a thing? Again, I have taken the proper steps to ensure my children’s safety. Am I the only one living in this twilight zone of a reality? How would you handle this if you were in my shoes?